12 Months to Better Time Management (26)
I tell you it has been an adventure helping my son learn to read. It is amazing the hard work the teachers and the students have to do to build a good foundation. At first I didn't really see a lot of movement in his work as far as improvement but then all of a sudden he is growing by leaps and bounds.
The one thing that I know that if I spend a lot of time and patience now to help build a strong foudnation. It will pay off big and all of the hard work will pay off in his life. What an awesome priviledge it is to help a little person learn the fundamentals that will shape their lives. It is such a humbilng experience.
This is in the same way about building over the last year. Making changes and building new foundations. I want better outcomes so I am building new foundations one by one. I will be healthier and happier because of it. More importantly I will have peace in my heart that I am on the right track. Not one day of my life will be a waisted. It will have purpose.
Today I was speaking to a person I know and love very much. This person has had their sleeping patterns change. So we were talking and we came up with the idea of just starting his day a lot sooner. He has been getting up between four and five in the morning. I told him instead of fighting starting his day and trying to go back to bed, just get up and start his day. He can get a lot more done early in the morning. Start and end his day earlier.
Sometimes we need to adapt and make what we seem negative into a positive. Embrace and make each situation the best that it can be even when we feel it might be a hinderance. We need to maximize each situation in our lives. Who knows where we could end up.
I find it very interesting how differently we perceive one another. I had a friend this week feel as if I had become distant to her. It couldn't of been further from the truth. I just had a tremendous amount of things on my mind. Once she had asked me it really shockked me for a couple of reasons. One, I don't want to ever come off like that and two, what am I so preoccuplied over that couldn't wait. I was once told to worry with a purpose of problem solving and then and only then. Sometimes it isn't as easy as it look and a lot of times we don't know that we arer doing it.
I wish I had a nickel for all the time I waiisted on worrying. A lot of the things that I worried about has never come true. Plus the negative stress effects it has on my body is tremendous. I obviously need to step back and take some time to schedule those times in and just shut it down. Again, I am out for a better quality of life right. Worrying is going to cut it.
I guess what I am going to talk about today is knowing what you stand for and actually standing up for it. I am finding that it is so important to take the time to know what i stand for in so many situations. Also, if I am unsure, to take a step back into a situation until i do know. I have always believed in treating others the way I want to be treated. I stand on how the Bible works and I do my best to do that. So when situations come up I need to know how I stand on things before I can make a decision. Once the decision is made it is literally up to me to do it. Sometimes it is not a good or an easy feeling, but I can honestly say when i do it, when it is finally over I feel peaceful.
I watched my son tonight. I took him to a very popular place to play inside because we have been snowed in for a couple of days and he definitely needed to get some exercise and play time with other children. Well there were two not so very nice brothers that was ganging up on my son. I checked on him a couple of times. I sat there and I watched my son gently but firmly stand up for himself. I am not one for fighting or anything like that, but I was very impressed on how he knew when it was right and wrong and he stood up for himself. The Mom of the other boys came over and was cleary upset with their behavior and took them home. All in all, with everything my son has been through with the bullying incident, he handled it very well. Then i watched my son play with the other children. What a great night.
One thing that I have learned over the years in my training, my psychological background and just life experiences, boundaries are so important. If I let others just trample across my boundaries, I lose myself and myself esteem. It is so important to figure all of that out and then make a decision to stand up for myself. Again, I am not into engaging into anything that isn't peaceful. However, I am definitely for standing up for myself. Rudy Guiliana said something that has stuck with me ever sense 911 happened in new York. He said, "I learned a long time ago that who is the most peaceful in any situation wins." Amen.
I tell you a thankful attitude is fuel for the soul. It just breeds a positive outlooks and a humble spirit. Two qualitities in life that I definitely want to have and represent. It just seems to bring clarity and hope for the future. It is so easy when things get tough to just get negetaive and once that starts there seems to be no end. Until, I put the breaks on. I am the only one that can do that. It seems that once I start just looking and being thankful for those things in life, my whole momentum changes.
I am so thankful and greatful for so many things. I am greatful for my family, friends and loved ones. I am thankful for my staff and my members. Also that my familly has the opportunity to be a blessing to all of these folks. I am thankful for my health. I am thankful that I get to contribute to others. I am thankful for my faith first and foremost. I am thankful that I am able to workout and eat right Not everyone has those choices. Try being thankful. You will be amazed how rich you can feel. Being thankful is a much better use of my time than focusing on what is wrong. In this day and age that could eat me a live. It isn't necessary or worth it.
It is funny how you plan your day and when it is over, it looks like nothing you had in mind. That is what happened to me today. I got a last minute huge homework assignment for my son and off we went today to complete. It was a lot of work, but it was so much fun.
The one thing that I am noticing is that I sure make a lot out of a little. I think with the stress of life and all of the events I have experienced, for some reason i automatically go to the tragic side or I make a big deal out of it when it really iisn't. I didn't realize but I guess it was coming across bragging and I think I was just trying to relate to others so they might like hanging out with me. That is an area that i am working wholeheartedly on. Sometimes it is just life. I guess I need to stop and take some time to figure out maybe why I am doing it. Then maybe i can relax a little bit. I don't want to ever come across like that. When I help someone it is genuine. Even when I say stuff that might be teasing, I always have the heart in the right place. I guess I need to select my words better. It is an art.
Tomorrow is a church day for me. I am looking forward to it. I think it will bring me a lot of peace. That is something that I have done my entire life and I have recently strayed from that. I am searching for that balance and I know that is an area that can definitely help me reach that goal.
I tell you it what I had a really intense bad day yesterday. I guess at least the first part of the day. I just didn't start the day off right and things just seemed to get worse.
Well today I intentionally made the decision to not have a bad day. I made the decision that i wanted to have a good day. I intentionally avoided bad conversations as well as anything that was a problem I took a minute and thought about things before I made decisions. I intentionally didn't react to the situations. I am actually very happy about my day and how I handled things. The one thing that I do know is I not only want to feel good physically but I want to feel good mentally. I have decided not to let the trash into my life or my mind. I tell you it is work to have a good day. Sometimes I have to really focus and fight for what I want out of life
I tell you if you ever want to be inspired check out the public school system. Those teachers work so hard. I am humbled by their hard work and dedication. The next time you get a chance, do something nice for a teacher. They are the individuals giving our children that amazing gift of knowledge and the hope for their future.
I have set aside some time every week to volunteer my time at the school. I have to say that is my favorite time of the week. I thoroughly enjoy giving back. People that know me know how crazy my schedule can be. I have to say I had to make the time. The work will still be there but making a difference in someone elses life by just giving a hand and helping, there is nothing like it. I wisih it could be more. Maybe soon I can. One day at a time.
Those teachers sure need a hand. I am only saying this to hopefully inspire you to get out there and find and hour or two a week to just pour into someone elses life wherever it might me. It will make you rich in your heart.
Man I really had a horrible night sleep. I am really pooped. Seems to be a pattern. I am going to have some Camomile tea tonight and turn in early tosee If i can get caught up. Yawn. Needless to say I didn't get up this morning. Tomorrow is going to be better. I always get up and watch one of my favorite pastor's on television when that happeneds.
I think I am a little stressed about work. I have a lot of deadlines. I honestly need to stop thinking about it. Once I rearranged my schedule I know I can get it all done. I have another power day tomorrow. I am writing employee reviews tomorrow, two bank recs and running reporrts for quarterly taxes. Lot's to do. My head spins sometimes. Run payroll reports. Whew!! It all seems to land at once all of the time. It is all good. I guess it is all about time management. I really could of used a good sweat today to make me feel better. Just out of gas.
My diet is great. I think I need to get going on a cleanse. I usually do that a few times a year. I am not sure which one I want to do but I think I will feel a lot better if I do. My friend Dante told me about one that he has done that I am very interested in. I will let everyone know when I figure it out. MMMM!!
Oh, also I am planning our holiday give away for bearly worn clothing, foods and toys for this amazing shelter that we sponsor every year. So I need to make sure I take time to purge and get my stuff there.
We had a great Saturday morning. I made homemade Blueberry Multigrain pancakes for breakfast. My son and my husband helped me. It was so much fun and a great way to start the weekend. Then it was off to the errands of the day. Whew. I am glad that is over. My husband and I had a date night tonight. I am trying to get that more organized. We need some one on one time. Life can just pass me by and we can go weeks before connecting like that. In our day right now, I have to intentionally schedule time like that or it just doesn't happen. It isn't like the past where people just had the time. Now I have to make the time if I want all of my relationships to be healthy.
I spoke about this last week how a very special friend had some words for me to make my life better. Well, sometimes it takes time to process, but I have put some of those things into place and I have to say things are getting better and better. I really feel it is important to have sound friends in your life that will tell y ou how they really feel and you have to make it ok to listen sometimes. I don't mean by having someone in your life who is always criticiszing. These are people that care about you. If the closests ones to you are saying the same thing, take it to heart even if you don't like it at first. In your heart you will always know what is the right thing to do.
Monday is my next workout and I am looking forward to it.